Stress of waiting took over our lives
I don’t live in England – hence I am not aware of the details of their health care system. However it doesn’t matter what part of the world you live in – infertility is the common thread for all those who faces this challenges. It is a stressful time and puts pressure on most if not all aspects of your life. Here is an excerpt from Joanne’s story.
Joanne, a support worker for Lancashire Care NHS Trust, said going through fertility investigations and treatment is an stressful and traumatic time for couples longing to start a family.
She said: “It puts a real strain on your relationship as it is all you think about and talk about and you end up putting the rest of your life on hold.
“My husband and I have now split up and part of me believes going through such a stressful time together led to the breakdown of our relationship.
“Infertility can have a devastating effect on relationships. It is a difficult time anyway, but if you have to wait many years for IVF treatment on the NHS, it adds to the pressure.
“It becomes all you are focussed on and you fit the rest of your life around it.”
There is no doubt that going through fertility investigations and treatment is a stressful time. However is there a better way to think about this time???
Yes it is stressful on everyone involved. Is there a way to shift our perspective around infertility? Is there a way to deal with all that is involved in a creative and compassionate fashion – a time when we learn about ourselves and how to be the best we can be during this stressful time in our lives?
Could working with a life coach who has had his or her own experience with infertility be of assistance? Being able to talk through your thoughts, feelings, fears and explore options in a non-judgmental environment may be the focus that will help you get through this time.
Fertility life coaching is typically delivered over the phone or the internet and your coach can be based anywhere in the world. The important detail is that you connect with your coach and feel safe, supported and able to develop the resources and tap into the wisdom that you already have within yourself.